Authenticity in Relationships
Partner with your people to be who you are, belong, and be free… together.
How do you be authentic in relationships?
This work is vulnerable, courageous, emotionally intimate, and deeply collaborative. It is the work of repairing within ourselves the global history of misused power, victimization, and broken trust. We learn the skills we were never taught, but are essential for healthy, loving relationships. We heal our wounds so we can take ownership of our power, put our protective claws away, and be gentle with each other. We learn to be trustworthy with the power we have, both to ourselves, and with our loved ones.
What you’ll recieve
What’s the scructure?
Two live, 1:1 sessions per month, one for each participating person, (55 min)
One live session together, with me and your partners/people (80 min)
6 month commitment
Why work with me?
The more important a relationship is to us, the more we want it to “work out,” and the more our brains look for possible threats to the relationship. Sometimes what our brain sees is real, sometimes it projects our fears onto reality, and sometimes it’s remembering a traumatic event from our past that had similar themes and produced painful outcomes. No matter the circumstances, the normal human default is usually inauthenticity because, in the moment, it feels safer than discovering the truth. In the long run it erodes the connection and intimacy, and leads to resentment, dissatisfaction, and unexplainable conflict.
The antidote is telling the truth… but the truth can be a hard pill to swallow, especially if it’s been buried a long time, and the truth is always more nuanced than we expect it to be.
As a doula, I guide you through a process that supports you to break old patterns and build the kind of trust, intimacy, and love in your partnerships and polycules that previously seemed unreal.
Going against our programing is hard!
Meet your partnership doula…
Linden (they/she)
My people say "I can be myself with you in a way that I can't be anywhere else in my life. It's like you see who I really am underneath all the messiness of my current human experience and you help me see it too. I feel held with love and compassion and free to be exactly who and how I am."
I am 29 years old and I’ve spent the last 6+ years of my life returning to myself. The first 22 years I spent surviving, building my arsenal of inauthenticity and self abandonment in an attempt to feel connection and belonging. By the time I was 23 I was simultaneously in so much pain and so numb that all I wanted was to spontaneously stop existing. I didn’t know it at the time, but this was the beginning, this was my point of surrender that allowed me to begin learning how to LIVE.
Hi, I’m Melinda. I’m an artist, relationship nerd, and recovering codependent. I help people attune to the voice of their inner wisdom and build the muscles of self-connection so that they always have access to their authenticity. I give people a safe space to practice speaking their truth, sharing their insides, and acting on their inner knowing so that they become consistently true to who they are in every moment. I support people to create lives and relationships that not only allow them to be who they are, but celebrate and support them as they courageously transform and become themselves.
“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found.”
―Pema Chodron